I’m a clinical psychologist in New York. I am an adoptive mother, a step-mother who is lucky enough that everyone forgets the “step”, a member of an extended birth family in reunion. I’m an atheist Jew, a married lesbian and a shy extrovert. My clinical work focuses on adoptive families and adolescents. My academic, clinical and life work has included a fascination with adoption, disability, stigmatized identities, and how those of us outside the majority develop and maintain self-esteem.